Content creator Mama Lulu shared her thoughts on parents who are not invited to their children’s weddings, saying that understanding and respecting their decisions are important as they grow into independent adults.
Mama Lulu, whose real name is Loreta Balgos, discussed the topic in an Instagram Reel uploaded by one of her children, Oliver, who asked her opinion on parents whose children choose not to invite them to their weddings.
“Ma, ano ang opinyon mo doon sa isyu na ang isang anak ay hindi iniimbita ang mga magulang sa kasal?” Oliver asked.
Mama Lulu responded by emphasizing the importance of giving grown children the freedom to make their own decisions.
“Basta lumaki na ang ating mga anak, bigyan na natin sila ng sarili nilang desisyon sa buhay,” she said.
“Hindi tayo pe-pwedeng palagi na lang nakasunod sa kanila o nakasansala ka sa bawat desisyon ng anak mo. Dahil alalahanin nyo, ang anak natin may sarili ring isip. Kagaya din natin yan,” she continued.
“Kaya bigyan natin sila ng freedom. Gagawa na sila ng sariling buhay nila eh. Kailangan open-minded kayo,” she added.
Mama Lulu also acknowledged that there could be different reasons why some children choose not to invite their parents, particularly when their parents disapprove of their decision to get married.
“Depende kasi ‘yan sa sitwasyon eh. Meron kasi mga magulang, ayaw lang nilang ipakasal yung anak nila. Wala namang ibang rason,” she said.
“Eh bakit mo pakukumpedahin? Magkakagulo lang sa simbahan o kung saan nila gusto magpakasal. Guguluhin lang nila yung magiging solemn dapat na kasal para sa anak nila,” she added.
She explained that couples may simply want to have a peaceful and intimate wedding as they begin their married life.
“Kung ikaw ang ikakasal, gusto mo na, panibagong buhay na ‘yan eh. Gusto mo peaceful, ayon sa magiging daan mo. So, in the future, kung gusto nilang magbati, magkaayos, ‘e ‘di, maganda ‘yun. For the meantime, yung kasal nila, gusto nila, kanila lang, tahimik. Yung iba naman dyan, gusto lang nila, sila lang talaga mag-asawa,” Mama Lulu acknowledged.
She then shared the experience of one of her own children, who got married according to their wishes despite the parents being in different countries at the time.
“Sample, ang anak ko nasa abroad. Nagpakasal siya. Ang daddy niya nasa Pilipinas, ako nandito sa Amerika. Nagpakasal siya sa huwes. Then, nagpakasal sa simbahan. Okay pa rin. Hanggang ngayon, maligaya sila. Nagkikita-kita kami,” she recalled.
For Mama Lulu, parents should recognize that raising their children also means preparing them to eventually make decisions for themselves.
“Understand the situation. Pinalaki natin ang ating mga anak para magkaroon ng sariling isip, desisyon, buhay,” she reiterated.
She also reminded fellow parents to set aside their pride and acknowledge that they, too, can make mistakes.
“Sa mga magulang naman ang advice ko, minsan masyadong mataas ang pride natin dahil magulang tayo. Isipin natin, may mga mali rin tayong ginawa. Understanding is the best. At hindi porket matanda tayo, hindi tayo maaaring magkamali. Period,” she concluded.
Mama Lulu’s remarks came amid recent news surrounding Olympic gymnast Carlos Yulo’s reported plans for an intimate wedding with his longtime girlfriend, Chloe San Jose.
San Jose appeared to agree with Mama Lulu’s perspective, leaving a supportive comment on the post.
“Much love Mama Lulu 🙏🏻🤍,” she wrote.
Another netizen also praised Mama Lulu for her stance, commenting, “Thank you for a very understanding point of view Mama Lulu. You the best.”
