Carla Abellana has finally spoken up on her “separation” from husband Tom Rodriguez, describing in length the pain and suffering the actor allegedly caused her and her family.
A netizen recently slammed Carla for deleting a comment on the actress’ YouTube channel, which supposedly triggered the actress to address speculations surrounding the status of her relationship with the actor.
“And my comment was removed hahaha. Bakit? Takot ka mabasa na hypocrite ka. Wag ka magbait baitan kasi Hindi ka mabai,” said the netizen.
To which Carla replied, “Ayaw ko lang po ng negativity.”
The netizen went on to give unsolicited advice, telling Carla that she should have not “liked” negative comments about Tom and that they should have settled their marital problems amicably.
“Sana nag usap na lang kayo, hindi yung hindi mo kinakausap tapos ngayon may balita nag aasikaso ka ng annulment. Inaamin naman ni Tom nagkamali sya pero d naman po ata tama na natiis nyo sya na hindi kausapin.
“Sana hinayaan mo syang magpaliwanag, kaya lang marami ng nakisawsaw, like noon yung isa sa mga bff mo nag igs about narcissist, tapos may mga fans si Tom na sinasabi narcissist ka. Sana man lang po mag usap kayo ng maayos ng asawa mo.
“Kaya siguro nag post si Tom kasi nagsawa na sya sa kahihintay na kausapin mo sya. Hindi po kayo magkaka peace of mind kung di kayo nag uusap mag asawa. Kung gusto mong maging masaya ka mag usap kayong mag asawa. Sabihin mo sa kanya lahat ng hinanakit mo hindi yung dine deadma mo sya,” said the netizen.
Carla replied back with a lengthy response, giving a glimpse into her feelings over what allegedly transpired in her failed relationship with Tom.
“Ang taong lubos na nasaktan hirap pong pigilang hindi ilabas ang galit sa anumang paraan. I was disrespected. I was betrayed. I was lied to. I was used. I was shamed. I was made to look so stupid,” Carla said in defense of her “liking” negative comments about Tom.
The actress stated that she never did anything bad to Tom, but gave him all that she could give during the seven years they were together.
“Wala po akong ginawang masama kay Tom. Wala po akong ibinigay kay Tom kundi tunay na pagmamahal, respeto, pag-aalaga, pag-aaruga, pag-unawa, pagtitiis, sangkatutak na pagpapatawad, milya-milyang pasensya, paniniwala, pagtiwala, pag-aasikaso, pag protekta, lahat lahat na. Binigay ko po buong buhay ko sa kanya.”
Carla claimed that she had to endure all the pain and hold back her feelings out of fear that Tom might do something to her.
“7 na taon po akong bawal magalit, magtampo, masaktan, mabigo, malungkot, madismaya dahil hindi po pwede. Makakatikim po ako kahit subukan ko pong ipaliwanag sa kanya na nasasaktan niya ako at hindi po tama ang mga ginagawa niya.
“Paulit-ulit ko pong pinapaalala sa kanya na hindi po ako kalaban at mabuti po ang kalooban at intensyon ko. 7 na taon pong naipon sa loob ko lahat yun. Gustuhin at kailangan ko man pong ilabas, lubos na nakakakatakot po.
“Ilang beses ko po siyang hinikayat na magpatingin, magpagamot at magpagaling dahil yun din po ang gumana sa akin. Pero wala pa rin po. Tinanggap ko pa rin po siyang ng walang pagdududa kahit wala pong pagbabago.”
Despite all these, Carla said she still poured her heart and effort into her relationship with Tom until nothing was left for herself.
“Hinarap ko po siya sa altar. Buong puso po akong determinadong alagaan ang pagsasama at pagmamahal namin, at panindigan ang mga sinumpaan namin sa harap ng Diyos.
“Sa dami po ng binigay ko kay Tom wala na pong natira sakin. Galit, pride at ego ko, siya narin po ang kumuha sakin at hinayaan ko naman pong kunin din po niya.”
Thus, liking “negative comments” against Tom was nothing compared to the pain she and her family experienced from Tom, said Carla.
“Sa lala po ng sakit, pambabastos, panloloko, pandudurog, paninira, panggagamit at pagtataksil po niya, mga tinago niya, napakadali pong ibalik sa kanya sa paraan ng pagganti. Pero hindi po ako ganun. Hindi po ako bobo. Hindi po ako lalaban kahit tapak-tapakan na po ako ng husto.”
Carla also defended herself against netizens’ insinuations about her.
“Hindi po ako mababaw. Hindi po ako masamang tao. Kung ano po ang nakikita, naririnig at nababasa ninyo online ay kakarampot lang po ng hindi po ninyo nakikita, naririnig at nababasa kapag wala pong kahit anong camerang naka record.
“Kapag sarado na po ang pinto sa pamamahay po namin at wala na pong ibang nakakakita. Hindi po ako masamang tao tulad ng sinasabi, nararamdaman, naririnig at nakikita po ninyo online, sa TV, etc.
“Pinalaki po ako ng nanay at lola ko na marunong rumespeto, umunawa, magmahal, magpatawad, magpasalamat, magpakumbaba, at higit sa lahat may takot po siya Diyos.”
Carla, who got married to Tom in October 2021, was earlier reported to be preparing for her annulment with the actor.
Tom has not issued any statement as of writing.
However, after reactivating his Instagram account last June 1, he addressed a social media user urging him to tell the truth.
“Why not tell the whole truth now? Why wait?” said the follower in a comment that had since been deleted but was screenshot by followers and circulated online.
“Gag order… ask THEM why,” Tom said.
