“Hindi ko lubos maisip na in a blink of an eye, kukunin siya sa’min.”
A father emotionally shared what happened to his partner two months after she gave birth to their twins.
Jan Carlo Ibardaloza said that during Mommy Christina’s pregnancy, she had to undergo a procedure.
“Naging maselan ‘yung pagbubuntis niya, palagi siyang pagod.Nung nagpa-checkup kami ng second trimester, nakita nung doktor na parang bumubuka ‘yung cervix niya. Nagbabadya na ma-miscarriage ‘yung baby. Ang ginawa, niresetahan kami ng mga gamot,” Ibardaloza told The Philippine STAR.
She then had to undergo a cervix surgery in December 2023.
“Sabi nung doktor habang palaki nang palaki ‘yung mga bata, palaki rin nang palaki ‘yung buka.‘Yung best way, operahan siya, isarado muna tapos pagka panganak, tatanggalin ‘yung tali. Tinali ‘yung cervix niya. Syempre natakot kami. Successful naman [‘yung operation],” he recalled.
After the operation, Mommy Christina was in total bed rest to ensure her and her babies’ safety.
“Nagkakaroon siya ng morning sickness. Nagka pre-eclampsia siya. High blood siya. Namanas ‘yung buong katawan niya. Talagang hands-on kami sa kanya. Sinasabi ko na, “Kaya natin, itaguyod natin. Pinapalakas ko lang loob niya,” Ibardaloza said.
Mommy Christina gave birth to their twins on May 18, 2024. Their Baby Azaiah and Azriel were delivered healthy.
While they were navigating and enjoying their little family, Mommy Christina experienced shortness of breath.
“Mga after one-month, nakakaramdam na siya ng hingal.Parang lagi siyang pagod. Kahit nakahiga lang siya, pakiramdam niya lalo siyang hindi makahinga. Nagpa-checkup na kami.Wala namang nakitang problema sa lungs. Ang nakitang problema sa kanya, meron siyang heart enlargement. Humina ‘yung puso niya,” Ibardaloza said.
She then started to drink medicines in June 2024. “Sabi nung huling checkup niya nung Lunes normal na raw siya eh. Pagdating ng Martes, sobrang lakas na niya, sobrang galing niya na talaga. Hindi na siya hinihingal. Wala na siyang nararamdaman na sakit.”
But Ibardaloza was surprised when Mommy Christina collapsed inside their room.
Noting, “‘Yung huling binanggit niya na lang sa’kin nahihilo siya, tapos bumagsak na siya. Humingi na ako ng tulong. Natakot na ko no’n kasi sobrang putla niya na parang wala na talaga siyang dugo.Parang wala nang dugong nagfo-flow sa katawan niya. Kasi pagkabagsak niya sa’kin no’n–saglit na saglit lang split seconds lang eh.”
They immediately brought Mommy Christina to the hospital despite the heavy rains caused by Typhoon Carina. Ibardaloza said that he couldn’t think straight up until they reached the hospital.
“Bumabagyo talaga that time. Talagang grabe, bakit ganito? Wala na [pulse rate]. Sinusubukan siyang i-revive, tapos wala na, hindi na talaga kinaya ng puso niya,” he emotionally said.
Mommy Christina died on July 24, 2024 due to postpartum cardiomyopathy. Ibardaloza said that it was like a bad dream. “Hindi ako naniniwala kasi ang galing niya na eh. Mahirap tanggapin.”
Adding, “‘Yung twins natin,napakabata pa nila para iwan mo. Hanggang ngayon, hindi pa rin nagsi-sink in sa’kin. Parang kahapon lang, okay na okay pa tayo.”
Ibardaloza now takes care of their twins with the help of his partner’s family.
“Sobrang mahal na mahal kayo ni mommy n’yo. Kahit may nararamdaman na siya, gusto niya pa rin kayong alagaan. Ayaw niya ipaalaga sa iba, gusto niya siya lang, hands-on mom siya. Kaya sana ‘wag n’yo rin siyang kalilimutan bilang mom n’yo,” he said when asked about his message to their twins.
